There are so many questions in our minds about the LGBTQ community. Why some people are seen or treated differently for what they are born with? Why so many beggars and prostitutes on roadside are from the population treated differently due to their sex?
Some norms prevailing around us which need enlightenment and corrections, to know how they became norms ? To know why a huge percentage of this world’s population is not free to express their sexual feelings.
Why some people laugh immediately when they hear gay? We all have this mental picture of homosexuals wearing certain kind of clothes, behaving in a different manner, dancing and begging for earning money. Some people also have a very confused kind of picture in their brains relating to their sexual preferences and misconceptions of the anatomical structure of their bodies. People laugh because they think of them as someone practicing a taboo. Some are worried that this will come on the way of procreation.
Who are included in the LGBTQ community ? LGBTQ stands for lesbians, gay, bisexuals, transgender and questioning ( those who are confused of their sexual orientation). Lesbianism is when a girl is attracted towards a girl. Gay is when a man is attracted towards another man.Bisexual is when someone is attracted towards both a guy and a girl and a transgender is someone whose gender identity is different from what they are born with. Sexual choices are personal and should come from within. Nobody can dictate you to like a particular kind of sex and hate a particular kind of sex.
It has been a very long journey for LGBTQ community to even accept what they feel and then, coming out has been a completely different challenge. It’s a challenge enough to even accept your sexuality which is considered a taboo. Some people live in denial, live the way they are expected to live, accept the way others want them to live. But why is this been so difficult for them? Why can’t everyone have freedom of expressing what they are?
There is this movie known by the name The Danish Girl starring, Eddie Redmayne and Alicia vikander. It’s based on a real life story of first recepient of sex reassignment surgery. It’s actually a love story of a husband and wife, both painters. Everything goes well until one day the wife, Gerda (Alicia) asks the husband, Einar ( Eddie) to dress up as a woman as she wanted to make painting of a woman.(fyi Eddie looks beautiful as a woman :)) And in this process Einar realizes how he is actually liking to dress up as a woman and then he starts dressing up as one. He starts to acknowledge what he always has felt for men around him, the feelings which are repressed from longtime. His wife initially feels betrayed by what he was becoming, from Einar to lili, but gradually we find out that she supports him in this whole process of coming out and embracing his sexuality. She is also there with him when he gets multiple surgeries which leads to his early death to physically become what he felt like all his life. All because she wants to atleast die as what she actually is- a woman.
Another movie by the name Elisa and Marcela talks about similar issues. Elisa and Marcela are two girls who find each other’s company in a school and become very close friends. They start developing feelings for each other which are not socially acceptable. They fight with the society all their life just to be with each other. Elisa even starts dressing up as a guy so the people start accepting their company. They love each other but since they are behaving against the so called normal of this society they are jailed, beaten up and forced to escape their place. I don’t know how is it anyone’s business what goes between two people inside a bedroom? How is it affecting your lonely life?
What do they go through? It is unimaginable to exactly define how they must feel like. Right from the time when our puberty hits us we start feeling attraction towards someone. We talk about our feelings. We talk about them to our friends. We talk about it to our parents. This whole process is filled with lots of emotions, beautiful memories and so much love to share. Now imagine on the contrary, if you tell about it to your friends, parents or even yourself and you are treated like a criminal. You are made to believe that you have done some heinous crime. You are made to dislike yourself. So much so that you start questioning your existence. There have been reports of suicides. There have been reports of crimes against them. There have been rapes. There have been murders. They are not given jobs at respectable places and forced to beg or go into prostitution for making money for living. Hence, creating a vicious cycle of denial, neglect, hatred, unemployment and mental trauma. In short, their life becomes hell because of this society for the mere inability to contain two people’s love in their tiny brains just because they won’t be able to give babies to this world.
Why is it so hard for people to accept ? Well, I think the reason is that for a very long time sex or love between two heterosexual people has been the only thing considered normal apart from the fact that some people are worried how our population will grow. So, all other kinds of sexual preferences are taken as a taboo.
Why so many people of LGBTQ Community end up begging around? They have nowhere to go!! Everywhere they go they are treated like an outcast. They are laughed at. People don’t want to be seen around them, so even friendship with them would be taken as absolutely abnormal. People feel embarrassed about giving them a regular job. So, they end up doing odd jobs.
What is the need of a sex parade? The sex parade is actually a parade to present how proud they are to belong to that community. It inspires, motivates other people to also come out and accept their sexuality if they have felt ashamed before. It is something that’s empowering them, as a group and kind of represents oneness in this huge world where they have always felt alone.
What is the solution? Actually the solution is pretty simple – accept people for what they are. Accept love of any kind. It’s love, how bad can it be ? May be if you think of them as someone who are created by god just as we all are… Now would you call them abnormal?? Would you question his creation or accept them for who they are? If you are worried about someone who is close to you and felt any of the things I mentioned, the least you can do is support them. If as a parent someone is worried for their kids just because they are not heterosexual then I would like to tell your relationship with them is unharmed by his/her sexual preference, in fact they would feel more open and safe with you only if you could understand them.
I Dare to dream 
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